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Does Your Relationship Have Purpose?

Does Your Relationship Have Purpose? The fact is, even the best of couples hit walls and don't know where to start to turn things around. Ardyth offers Tips and Tools for stronger relationships

Couples often come to me and don't know where to start. Their relationships have become stuck, difficult, shut down, or a may other include scenerios in a vast assortment of other issues.

The fact is: EVEN THE VERY BEST OF COUPLES HIT WALLS and don't know where to start to turn things around.

I often ask them to start with defining a purpose for the relationship. Defining a clear and written purpose can significantly help to keep you on track and reel you back onto course if you are in conflict.

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Explore your core values. Many people don’t really know what the purpose is for their lives, nor do they really have a clear purpose of why they are in a relationship.

This is where we start.

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I suggest you choose 10 words, maximum, to best describe what is important to you in your life. With these words we develop your personal purpose and clarify your mission in life.

Then we repeat the process, choosing 10 words that best describe what is  most important to the relationship. We then combine your 10 words and use them to develop a written purpose for your relationship.

This builds a strong foundation from which to rebuild. It determines areas of alignment and compatibility and clarifies differences.

Next we determine your goals and objectives.

Then we get to work on the problems and challenges by learning to take responsibility, making new agreements and utilizing tools and techniques to build strong and healthy lives and relationships.

Many of us just need a place to begin.

For more information or questions please visit ardythbrock.com  or email ardythb@me.com

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